For any mother, the first few months with a new baby can be challenging. For a new mother of a child with disabilities, it may be especially daunting, and she may need even more encouragement and support. With Mother’s Day approaching this weekend, we’ve put together a list of 10 positive things you can say to a friend or woman in your church who recently gave birth to an infant with disabilities.
Sometimes hurting people just need a friend to cast a vision for a brighter, more hopeful future. So just step up to the plate and let her know that you have every confidence that she will make it; she’ll get through this; she can do it, by the grace of God!
1. “You know you have a group of friends—me included—who are not going to let you go through this alone. We are here for you!”
2. “I would love to have a picture of your new baby; I think it’ll be a good reminder to pray for him.”
3. “You know, friend, if you’re going to be busy for a while with extra hospital appointments, let me run a few errands for you: it’ll be a pleasure.”
4. “Take a deep breath, friend, your capacity to embrace challenges hasn’t failed you yet; you will get through this!”
5. “You know, I am picturing the day when you’ll look back on this moment, and smile—not in spite of the challenges, but because of them.”
6. “Friend, do not even think about a year from now, or even six months from now. Just take one day at a time; it’s the best way to live no matter the challenge or disappointment.”
7. “I want you to know our church is a welcoming place for children with special needs, and I want you to know that with us, you will be supported!”
8. “May I go along with you to the next hospital appointment for your baby? I just want to be there with you.”
9. “I’m going to gather some of our friends together to pray so could you just give me three things we can take to God on your behalf?”
10. “Any disability can be a scary thing at first, but I want to work alongside you to find the best resources available!”
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